Having a child with no husband or wife. If you follow in Christ's footsteps and have children – many children for that matter – then what do you think happens?
Many of the children were raised in unfortunate circumstances; therefore, OBV decided to create a family for the children that include a Mom, a Dad, and siblings. Of course, this would also include a sincere and true loving family to care for the children rather than just providing the children with a roof over their heads. "Dad Thông" and "Mom Ngọc" are names that can be heard frequently around the house. As these names are commonly used, some of the children have even filed Father Thông as their biological father and Sister Ngọc as their biological mother (this is because some of the children do not know whom their biological parents are – and even OBV is unable to access this sort of information).
There is nothing more heartwarming than to hear and have the children be able to call someone "Dad" or "Mom". Although there may be times when some individuals are bound to think or speak negatively of the situation, the OBV family wholeheartedly cares and protects the children from the negativity of others.
Thank you to all of our supporters for your continued love and care for the children
January 9, 2015
Translated by MyHuong Duong. Original version in Vietnamese entitled "Cha Thông, Sơ Ngọc Đã Lên Chức "Cha, Mẹ", Có Cả "Nghề Nghiệp" Hẳn Hòi!!"
I originally intended to write a story about one girl, allow me to name her Lan*, long time ago, however, I did not know how to put it into words because I believed that I was a part of it. It is not easy for me to admit it was my fault and failure not to save a life at risk when I had a chance to hold her hands tight, which still makes me deeply regret. More specifically, if I had been more sensitive and decisive, there would have not been such tragedy things that you are about to read; if I had led her to another living condition, she could have not had to live with a sadistic monster who is also her father.
The day my father was released from the prison, I was 11 years old - When my father went back home from farming, my mother prepared clothes in bathroom for him.
I came to the US when I was 17 years old. Along with busy days, my mother still kept doing the same stuff! If she was busy, she would tell me to do it!
The dream of a 17-year-old boy was that someday I could have a wife like.. my mother!
Then I was on "race of dating" in hope to find that woman!
I thought I found her - (in spite of being a little bit slow, she was not as feisty as my mother!) and I was really happy!!!
How are you? I have some questions for you:
- Do you like the darkness?
- Can the light make you happy?
- Does your house ever have a power cut?
- Are you afraid of the dark?
- What do you think when there is no light?
- What could you do in the darkness?
The title of this article is taken from Fr. Martino's uttered words after learning about the stories of the two girls who recently arrived at the OBV home.
It has been a week since the two came to live at the home. There are noticeable changes in the two girls – both positive and joyous. However, there are things we've yet uncovered; things that hurt deeply.
Little C malnourished and frail when she arrived at OBV home.
I used to be very happy when I looked back my achievements such as our children are wise, and were recovered intact. They have grown up; have studied well and have had good jobs.
I used to be very happy when our adopted children were in the same household book with me. A family has full of caring, sharing and happiness. When they were back to their parents, they usually call me to ask how I was that day, or to ask for an advice if they are facing difficulties.
I used to be expected that my children's future will be good. They will be independent. They will have their own families/children and they will be happy.
However, no one raises their child perfectly without difficulties in their lives.
Sister Ngoc and the new children
These days of March, project staffs of OBV went with Sister Ngoc to visit and consult 3 victims' families of child sex exploitation. A five-hundred-kilometer road trip, we had to go 3 times to be successful in persuading their families to let them live in OBV Family. Due to the specific characteristic of each area, there were only 2 children can come to OBV Family, another one will be helped by project staff to carry out the procedures because until now she did not have any personal papers to prove that she is ...Vietnamese.
People say that "One good turn deserves another". Don't wait for becoming a rich man to start sharing, we should learn to share with others even though we are in difficulties and disadvantages, because there is always someone's life being much harder. Therefore, Dr Thanh Tam (MD) and Dr Duy An (PhD) drove us to some places, namely "The Baby graveyard" and "Nursing home for the elders"
After that trip, they left us some notes, I would like to quote here...
The school principal came to greet for New Year
The middle school principal, staff and teachers came to OBV. They would like OBV Vietnam to have more sexual exploitation prevention seminars in their school.
We also had chance to discuss more details about OBV children's performance at school.
Come to Love
To double joys to unfortunate children on Christmas season, Saigon Pastoral Center held the "Come to Love." The program lasted from 13:00 to 21:00 on Dec 20, 2014. OBV children Vietnam attended the meaningful program.
After being well-prepared, such as uniform, badges with codes (required by the organizer), we departed at 10:30 of the day to avoid a traffic jam.
Every year in Christmas season, we usually decorate a beautiful nativity scene. It looks beautiful too this year, and everyone wants to take photos with it.
OBV Children are coming to take photos with the nativity scene.
Our OBV Family in Cambodia had a warm meal together our children's English teacher after we returned home from the nativity scene with PEACE-JOYNESS-HAPPINESS. At home, our children gave their presents and good wishes to their English teacher, then the teacher taught them to say best wishes to me. After that, she helped us to prepare the meal.
L has dark skin and looks healthy. She’s 10 year old but can easily be mistaken for a 6 – 7 year old.
Since L entered the OBV Cambodia, she seemed sad, hardly talk or laugh. Lots of enticements required to get a yes or no out of L. Eventhough she refused to talk but other children at the home gathered around trying to engage L in their conversations or to play with her. All the older children, after returning home from school, always inquired and greeted L with a smile.
I headed out from Phnom Penh to Compung Thum after I read about L in the newspaper. I met up with the local police and L’s mother to inform them about the services OBV offers. L’s mother asked for time to think things over. Two days later, L’s mother contacted me and signed the agreement for L to come and stay at the OBV home. L is 10 year-old and currently in 3rd grade. She was raped and her brother interenved after he heard her cry. Her parents are divorced and both have been remarried with new family of their own.