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As any other families, OBV children are expected to do the house chores.
OBV has conducted our mission to prevent child sexual abuse since 2009. At that time, we came to “open every door” and insisted on cooperating with many people, but the things we received were somehow only promises without any actions, or even certain “conditions” out of our reach. We have never given up; day-by-day we attempted to get access to remote areas, meet parents and get them know how to help their children aware of the risks involved with sexual abuse. We came to some places that we have contacts with first, and then other places where the government officials were very interested in and enthusiastic about our mission. Over the years, we have never ceased our efforts to overcome obstacles by obstacles. In general, we can win people’s trust for our work. However, we sometimes have to use “finance” to convince people from rural areas to come to listen to the issues that they need to know for the sake of protecting their children. We even had to pay for their off day so that they could attend the talks attentively without worrying at all. Some locals really welcome us, while others just have to because of their seniors’ command. It doesn’t matter how they behave; we still keep going.
Today, we’ve received contacts from two official media offices. They would like to be one of our partners in OBV’s mission. Nothing is happier than you are not lonely on your road; the road sure will be shorter.
It is hoped that OBV’s house where the abused children are brought up at present will be closed one day! If all of us join hands to raise all the society classes’ awareness that children are not sexual tools for anyone.
Will our dreams come true? The answer is for each of us.
Going through a long road in the heat of April, I finally met her. She is really brave; she dares to fight against her relatives’ immorality by accusing of their behavior though she knows that lots of rumor will come to her. She stands up for the sake of a teenage girl who wants to find the way for her own future.
When we come to pick up her for a visit to OBV’s house, it’s really interesting to hear to the conversation between her and her younger sister.
She: Do you study hard? Are there any days off?
Her sister: Yes, I study very hard, no days off.
She: But I heard that you have some days off. Dare you tell lies to me?
Her sister: Only Friday, because the teacher didn’t come to class…
She acts like a very powerful elder sister (though she is just a stepsister) when she asked and even threatened her sister with a very lovely voice. I believe that her great courage will help her grow up and be a good example for her sister to follow.
See you, the brave girl, in the happy house where you will be definitely happy!
Let's forget about all that happened before bringing the girls to their new home with OBV. "Van su khoi dau nan" where everything, including our house, was either borrowed or rented. These past three years, thanks the love and generosity of our supporters, our OBV children can finally say they have their own home. However, care for the house must be made every day, with additions and renovations being made, until finally...the management team are at ease knowing the that girls are safe and at peace.
Although the garden is not very large, the team at the house continue to develop it, not leaving any inch unused, to the point where Father Thong said 'Mother! You keep planting every thing to the point it makes my head spin when I look at it!'. But you know what Father? Despite your head spins, it provides lots of shade and the perfect environment for our girls and visitors alike. Many plants have produced flowers or fruits, and the fruits have readily been eaten. Our big failure would be the sugarcane plants your brought back from Lao Cai...they couldn't survive the Saigon environment.
But that's not all. Mother also now has a mini acquarium and bird enclosure where the kids can hang out and relax while watching the animals play. It is also healing, to the human soul.
Dr. Ehum and the OBV-Cambodia children
Only a few months out of every year do our kids recieve visitors who come and stay with them at the OBV house, not just donate money and toys. Dr. Ehum, Mr. And Mrs. Kingston stayed with the girls for several days and got to know their daily routines, as well as got to know them on a personal level by playing games with them and making them feel special.
As a child, she suffered alone, with no parents, no next of kin. When a couple adopted her, she dared to dream that my life would become brighter, but...who would ever imagine that the roof they supplied would become a life of pain and sorrow.
She was only allowed to study to 5th grade, when she was forced to drop school and take up the life of a street kid to earn money for her adoptive parents: through begging, selling lottery tickets, working in coffee shops....
Dr. Ehum has individual talk with the OBV children.
Both OBV in Vietnam and Cambodia were very lucky to have Doctor John Ehum visit both locations, to get to know the girls, the staff, and the work that OBV do. It was an exciting week for John, with visits to Vietnam house, Cambodia house and a comprehensive tour of Kuala Lumpur and the work of OBV in Malaysia.
I got the opportunity to sit with Dr John at the beginning of the trip, and again at the very end, to talk about his expectations and experiences.
Jacqueline: So let's talk about your expectations coming into Vietnam and Cambodia. What were you thinking prior to your trip?
John: It was my first time to Vietnam, Cambodia and Malaysia so in terms of the countries and culture, I'm not quite sure what I was walking into. However, having worked with Dr. T.T for many years and heard her stories about OBV, I was very willing to go and see first-hand what the work involved, while experiencing new cultures.
Dr. John Ehum was welcomed to the OBV house with songs and a few simple Korean phrases, a moment that was truly heart-warming.
Dr. John joined in on all of the house activities, including going to mass with the children on Saturday afternoon, then waking up early Sunday morning to help with the household chores, including sweeping and taking out garbage.
After breakfast, he took the time to sit with each child to get to know them, their personalities, their hopes and dreams and goals. After the girls shared their stories with him, they said a prayer together, where Dr. John gave thanks and asked for blessings so that they may reach their goals. In just under 24 hours, he was able to remember all their names and point them out, which made the girls feel loved and appreciated.
To support OBV, he chose a piece of artwork, hand-embroided by one of our girls, to take home as a memory of his new family.
After finishing up his individual talks with the girls, Dr John treated them to a day out at the park, lunch, and karaoke. The children accompanied him to the airport, where they said good-bye with heavy hearts.
Thank you Dr John. Although your visit was very short, the time has left a big footprint in the hearts of our girls, and we hope to see you again very soon in the future!
Translated by Jacqueline Huynh. Original version in Vietnamese entitled:"Người bạn đồng hành của OBV- Bs John Ehum"
On those busy days at the end of the year, besides taking care of the kids who are living and studying at OBV, our thoughts are in home kids. We want all of them to be happy and enjoy Tet as other children do.
All of OBV children were taken to shop for new clothes; they also received lucky money for the Lunar New Year.