Professor Toan, along with the OBV team and special guests from the media stopped by Soc Trang province to give a seminar to schools in six districts. on the basics of puberty and sex education, as well as some information and skills in the prevention of sex abuse. This was requested by the Women's Union, in an attempt to lower the instances of child sex abuse in the region.
Two of the districts were extremely far and difficult to get to. One of these districts had a bridge so narrow that only a single bicycle could cross it. Most of the people living here had Khmer roots, with their lives being in complete destitution. Many ended up moving to the bigger cities (Dong Nai, Binh Duong, HCM) to look for work, and left their children behind for the grandparents to care for. Without the appropriate discipline, and general lack of care towards having an education, the children had little focus and attention in school, with many dropping out by the age of 13 and followed their parents to work.
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After a good sleep of the great first day, we got back energy and started the second day in good manner. Binh Dai River also seemed to be nicer than tomorrow. That helped us feel safer. (Honestly, we were very nervous yesterday. We were worried about our learners, our new method, and the most serious problem: our safety when passing the river.)
At 8:00 A.M., all the learners gathered at the classroom. Therefore, the lesson began in good attention from everyone. There was one thing new today. That was we had got a microphone. Although our class was small, our specialists got to be rather tired after trying their best to teach for over 30 people. So the microphone really helped us.
Specialist Pham Sy started the lesson
Specialist Pham Sy started the lesson by sharing with our farmers the skills to protect their children from usual accidents in daily life such as fire or drowning. Lots of photos were put out and questions were asked to get answer from the parents. Their answers helped the speaker know what our parents have known and what they haven’t known. So the speakers would know what to share more, especially about the risks all around their life. What made our learners excited in the questions – answer part was that everyone who participated would get a small candy as a gift. This gift was simple but helped our learners feel free and happy to join in.
Joining activities with specialist Pham Thi Thuy.
According to Ms. Thuy, the more risky ones were invisible. Those risks are in behaviors of the kids’ loved ones. Those behaviors would have a strong impact on children’s psychology and growth. Negative impact can lead children to hurting themselves or suicide. Therefore, parents’ responsibility is very important.
There was also a topic that was most concerned. That was how to protect our kids from being abused. Specialist Pham Sy divided our learners into 3 groups to make them discuss about some problems: sex abuse risk, its consequences, how to protect kids from that. The representative of Bridge to Happiness Center also talked with the farmers about their program which is also OBV’s program to help the kids who were abused to recover. Mr. Pham Thi Thuy also taught the learners how to know if their kids were abused.
The learners were discussing.
Ms. Linh (program coordinator of Bridge to Happiness Center) was talking about her center’s information with the learners.
Early in the afternoon, after a warm up activity, specialist Pham Sy discussed about videos of conflicts happening in schools. This discussion gained curiosity as well as surprise from our farmer learners. He gave the audience practical examples to help them discuss together about how to solve each problem. He emphasized the duty of ones who help everyone get back together; what characteristics they should have and how important they are. He also emphasized that each parent should become a person who helps others get back together whenever conflicts happen.
The last day was also the day when there were more time for the audience to ask questions about what were discussed in two days. Lots of questions were asked. They were about how to educate kids, how to build good relationship between husband and wife – this is a good base for a happy family. Every question was answered with a realistic view from our specialists.
Our specialists were answering the questions.
At the end of the day, we had the audience do a survey to receive feedbacks from them. The survey showed good feedbacks and desire to have more helpful training course like that.
We left there in twilight. Cua Dai River was peaceful in the morning but at that time, it made us worried when lots grey clouds were coming. Our boat had no roofs and the little rain went ker-plop. That made us worried about a storm coming. But fortunately, it began to rain heavily when we had just got to the land. So we felt safer. Everyone quickly got back to the hotel to rest and to have a meeting for feedbacks for the next training course in a further area, with an audience of farmers who are more innocent. The method used for this next course must be changed to meet the audience’s needs.
July 14, 2011
Translated by Le Nhat Lam. The original version in Vietnamese entitled "Nhật Ký 'Tập Huấn Làm Cha Mẹ' - Ngày Thứ 2"
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We departed at 6:15 A.M. After breakfast, we got on a boat to pass Tien Giang river to go to Tan Thanh, Tien Giang. It was silent and the air was fresh there in that water land in the morning. After going by boat for 15 minutes and 10 more minutes going by bike with the speed of 60 kilometers per hour, we reached Tan Thanh Primary School.
We took a boat in Binh Dai, Ben Tre to go to Tan Thanh, Tien Giang.
Our specialist Pham Thi Thuy was very nervous that we would be late. She wanted to be there 30 minutes before the lesson began because this 30 minutes was the important time to get to know the learners. We were so lucky to get there on time. It meant we got there 30 minutes before the lesson starting.
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Everyone focused on topics that need to be discussed.
We arrived in Binh Dai, Ben Tre province at 20:30 in a home that was said to be the best one and the “safest” one in both literal and figurative meaning. To get the best preparation, we gathered together at 21:00 at one of our members’ room, and in that room of the “safest” place, the bed became the meeting table.
Just a few simple words and pictures from our training session to the Youth Leaders, in the prevention of Sexual Child Abuse, organized for Sunday the 27th November, 2016. The seminar was held at the Youth Leaders' Convention 2016 at the Parish of Phu Cuong, with OBV's psychologist Duy Ngyen leading the discussion.
It was another Sunday morning with no rest for the wicked. With a special invitation for the father of the Parish, OBV's psychology team headed out to give another seminar on the "Prevention of child sex abuse", to over 600 of the youth at the Parish of Tan Phuoc in Tan Binh Saigon. With such a big group ranging in different age groups, we decided it was necessary to split us the seminar into 2 Sundays: 2/10 and 9/10.
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Almost one year ago, we had the opportunity to come to Cồn Bà (province of Tiền Giang) in a parenting session offered to local population. At that time, we were really impressed with the nature, the life and the people of the area. Probably, nice memories of that first encounter had drawn us to Cồn Bà again. That time, the same people with some sort of innocence and genuine kindness continue to surprise us and to leave unforgettable emotions within our hearts.
Tân Thạnh school was where the first parenting session will be taking place. Like in other previous sessions, we came early to prepare rooms and to set up computer, screen and projector necessary for the teaching. Several stories, a lot of memories during the whole session had left long lasting marks in our mind.
It was a beautiful Sunday morning, a day where after a long week of work, we'd like nothing more than to relax with our friends and family, head off to the movies, and organize dinners and social events. Of course, for the One Body Village Vietnam family (Nhip Cau Hanh Phuc), we had other plans: To travel to the Thai Thien Parish in Dong Nai province, and give a seminar on basic sexual education, and prevention of child sex abuse.
Leaving at 5.30 in the morning from district 1, our group of 5 arrived at the Thai Thien Parish at 8.15am. Father Bao and the Youth Group leaders, Sunday School teachers had worked hard in the month leading up to this event to ensure a good turn out. The kids were divided into two age groups: the 6-12 year olds, and the 13-18 year olds.
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The Bridge to Happiness Center (OBV VN) initial media tour plan didn't include Truong Gia Mo Middle School. It was added at the last minute (89 minutes before departure) based on a sudden request from the head of the Bridge to Happiness Center. Many of the teens here have been lured into the world of drugs and prostitution, which eventually lead to dropping out of school. For that reason, the Board asked us to come speak with them.
So Quynh Ngoc (OBV Manager), The Khanh (Project Manager), Dr. Duy An (President), Nguyen Van Binh (Director) speaking with the audience.
The group left at 6:30AM from Can Tho, and after over 3 hours of travel, we finally arrived at the destination. Surprisingly, even after we arrived nearly 30 minutes late, the teachers and students were there waiting to greet us. A TV reporter from the local Chau Doc news was also there. Our apologies were reciprocated with a warm applause from the audience.
Child exploitation continues to frequent our news.....
What can we do to reduce or even eliminate this shameful practice that pains us all?
Whenever this happens in these areas, who ever expects it?
There is only one way and that is to teach children to self protect themselves, as we are not always there by their side.
We must have proper talks with them and show them the very basics of what abuse is.
We must put in all our efforts because this could happen to any child, including our own.